So, further testing shows that this only happens if I have 2.4ghz enabled on the SSID that I enable MLO on.  The EAP783 is supposed to support MLO for 2.4ghz + 5ghz + 6ghz, but it seems I crash if I include 2.4ghz but am functional with only 5ghz and 6ghz (though needs longer term testing, but stable for at least a few hours now).

I would really like 2.4ghz included in my MLO SSID as there are some corners of the home and areas outside where 5ghz and 6ghz don't reach well and I'd rather not rely on the iPhone to switch SSIDs as it's unlikely to switch back to the MLO SSID later.  Definitely better if MLO includes all three and negotiation of which channels to use based on strength works properly.

Hi  @jmccaskey 

Thank you so much for taking the time to post the issue on TP-Link community!
To better assist you, I've created a support ticket via your registered email address, and escalated it to our support engineer to look into the issue. The ticket ID is TKID240957496, please check your email box and ensure the support email is well received. Thanks!
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